How many times in a day, in a week, do you think that there is something wrong with you?
My guess is, many.
What happens when you compare yourself to others?
When you look at other people and compare yourself, you see them succeeding, capable, able to get on with the life. And that’s not you.
You struggle to know what it is that you want to do.
You’ve been to all sorts of different practitioners and energy healers trying to get their help to fix you.
All because you think they have the magic answer to your problem.
They will be the one that will make the difference to you, and make you feel ‘normal’
You fall short because you think there is something wrong with you
‘There is something wrong with me’ is another way of saying ‘I’m not normal‘
You’re always looking for outside help or support to fix you.
What if, there is nothing wrong with you? Nothing!
Bit hard to believe, huh?
It is your thinking that’s the problem
If I was to tell you that it’s your thinking that’s the ‘problem’, would you believe me?
Isn’t it your thinking that has you believe you’re not like other people?
Doesn’t your thinking tell you that there is something wrong with you?
Don’t you constantly compare yourself with others?
Isn’t it true that you read books, watch video’s, or listen to audio and as you’re doing that you compare yourself and your mind say’s ‘Oh, but I’m not like that. So, there must be something wrong with me.’
Our mind is a very interesting thing.
It spends a lot of it’s time comparing and judging. Do you notice that?
And when it does, you are always usually the one that comes up short.
You’re the one that finds a problem. You notice that you aren’t the same and that naturally means that there is something wrong with YOU.
What you’re thinking isn’t bad
This thinking is not good or bad, it is simply a way of thinking. And, you can shift it. By questioning what you are believing.
Our mindset and ways of thinking often begin in our childhood, as we learn to BE in life.
We hear our parents comparing, and judging and we naturally copy them. Why wouldn’t we. It’s all we know as a child.
Then as we grow we have other influences, or we learn about other influences. Our cultural heritage for example. Or from the school peer group; teachers, other people we interact with.
This all shapes how we see ourselves; how we judge our selves in relation to others.
And yet, if we were to understand that we don’t need to compare ourselves to someone else, life would be different.
You are unique
That’s right, you are unique. Only you can be you. No one else can.
So, there is no need to compare yourself to anyone, other than the person you know deep down inside you are.
Notice your thinking
The best thing you can begin to do for yourself is notice when your thinking is off balance.
Notice when you feel any slight shift in your emotion. That’s your inner radar system saying ‘something is off balance here.’
We think there is something wrong when we feel that emotional reaction and yet it’s not ‘wrong’, it is very right. It is telling us, stop and pay attention.
We don’t believe in our ability to fix ourselves
The reason you go looking for an outside source to ‘fix’ us is because you don’t believe in your own ability to do that.
And yet in my experience the best thing you can do for yourself is to question your thinking as this is at the heart of a lot of what is troubling you.
Are you telling yourself you aren’t good enough?
Your thinking is what is creating the need for you to compare yourself to others. Somewhere deep inside it’s tell you, you aren’t good enough.
It’s what has you believe that you’re unable to be what those other people are. And that’s not true. You can be whatever you want to be.
So, maybe it’s more true that you don’t yet know what you want to do.
Take some time to learn or re-learn how to believe in yourself.
It will really make a difference in your life, based on my own personal experience.
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