Your mental health may not be something that you prioritize as important and yet, you want to have a happy life on a daily basis, don’t you?
If your answer is no, then I think you’d probably be the only person on this planet to say that.
What does happy at home look like? Isn’t it relaxing and enjoying the things that you live, being with your partner watching a movie or enjoying a beautiful dinner; spending time with your children sharing in what they love, sports, play, the outdoors?
And whilst you’re enjoying time with them do you want to be spending time thinking about work?
No, of course you don’t and yet how easy is that to accomplish?
What would it take to be happy at work?
Then happy at work, now that’s a completely different matter.
The only way to be happy at work is to BE AT WORK. You understand what I mean don’t you?
I’m pretty sure that for at least part of your day you are thinking about home and the things that you need to do, the argument you had with your spouse, what you need to be doing for your children.
When you do that you are mentally not at work. You’re at home.
Then there’re the at work, work aspect. How often are you unhappy with your staff, or the company you work for, or a supplier you must deal with? Or the Government because you report to them, ultimately.
I’d be pretty sure that I could count on the fact that for many hours of your day, whilst you’re at work, you’re not happy. I’m right aren’t I?
How does what I’ve talked about here relate to your mental health?
Well, when you’re in your mind worrying, or feeling unhappy it’s your mental health that is involved.
What you are thinking and believing at any given time is impacting on your ability to be peaceful, calm and ultimately happy.
Don’t wait to take care of your mental health
Often, we tend to disregard what’s going on in our mind and wait until there are physical signs that we’re off balance, before we take care of ourselves.
It’s too late once there are physical signs. Well no, it’s not too late. You can turn around these physical symptoms. And, it would be beneficial to everyone if you considered your mental health at the top of your list, in terms of health and worked on it.
And I can hear you say, “Oh but I’ve been to psychologists or psychiatrists and spent a lot of money and nothing much changed” Or, I don’t have the time.
Both psychologists and psychiatrists have particular methods they use, and those methods are valuable.
They don’t often get to the root cause of what’s making you unhappy, for example.
Sometimes it may be simpler than you think.
The impacts of not prioritizing your mental health
You may not connect things that feel unsettling in your life to our mental health.
For example, you may feel slightly agitated all the time. This in turn could lead to sleep that is disturbed; maybe you wake at least once or twice a night.
This broken sleep pattern could be caused by stress, which when you’ve had it for a long time, you may not even be aware you are experiencing it. That was my experience.
You may find that your adrenals are running on high all the time. This can lead to a number of physical symptoms.
And is often caused by ‘being on high alert’ or ‘switched on’ all the time. Remember that mind of yours that you just can’t seem switch off? Well, that can be the cause of this sort of problem.
I’m mentioning this because sometimes we find it difficult to tap into what’s going on, until someone says ‘Stop! Slow Down.’ And it’s not until you do, that you begin to notice how your current hectic and unhappy lifestyle is impacting on life in general.
Happy all the time, is that possible?
Spending your days at work and home with your family, happy, is ultimately what everyone wants from life, right? You included.
So, take the time to make your mental health a priority. Consider that there are other methods that will support you to do that. Methods that aren’t straight psychology or psychiatry.
Take the time NOW to do what it takes to learn how to be calm again. And I don’t mean by spending half an hour a day meditating.
For a lot of people that provides a brief respite and doesn’t shift things so that longer term you are spending ALL your day in that blissed out meditative state.
What would it be like, do you think to do that?
To spend each and every working day not worrying, not anxious, angry, upset, or focusing on home when you’re at work and vice versa. Can you even imagine what that would be like?
Happy with life, full stop!
From my own personal experience, it is possible.
Don’t believe me? Take the time for a FREE 90-minute Deep Dive session with me and I’ll show you how it’s done.