5 toxic beliefs that ruin careers

In an article, written by Geoffrey James, he listed 5 toxic beliefs that ruin careers.  I was interested to read the article to see what ‘beliefs’ were listed.

When I initially read the list of ‘beliefs’ my story was that they weren’t really the beliefs that people would think.  I considered that there were more ‘real’ beliefs that had people act the way that he described in his belief list.

The first toxic belief

For example his number one belief was “My self-worth is based on what others think of me.”  Yes, I can see that this IS a belief.  I can also see that what I would be thinking and believing about others would look more like,  “They “:

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  • Think I’m stupid
  • See I don’t have the skills
  • Don’t appreciate what I do
  • Think I’m too slow to do the job

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  • Don’t think I get it
  • Treat me differently to others
  • Don’t trust me

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The remaining beliefs

I took the remaining beliefs off his list and considered the other ‘beliefs’ that for me sat under his.  These are what I am believing about others for this belief to ring true for me:

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My past equals my future

  • This always happens to me
  • I always fail
  • They think I’m a failure
  • I never do anything right
  • They’ll always put me down
  • My career depends on them
  • I can’t be successful

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My destiny is controlled by the supernatural

  • I’m so unlucky
  • Someone else controls what I do
  • It’s fate
  • I don’t have control over what I do
  • It’s out of my hands
  • I’m not responsible for what happens
  • It’s karma

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My emotions accurately reflect objective reality

  • I’m insensitive towards others
  • They think I’m cold
  • Being empathetic is important
  • Others see me as hard
  • They think I’m always angry
  • It’s not okay to cry at work
  • Showing emotion in the workplace isn’t allowed

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My goal is to be perfect or do something perfectly

  • They wouldn’t allow me to fix the problem
  • I should do this perfectly
  • They’ll think I can’t do it perfectly
  • I shouldn’t make a mistake
  • They’ll see I made an error
  • I shouldn’t make any errors
  • They didn’t give me what I needed

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How they ruin my career

In writing down these beliefs I can see that I am looking for the approval of others a lot when I believe each of these thoughts. I notice that I’m wanting them to approve of what I do and how I react in the workplace.  This isn’t helpful for me, as a person.  It is stressful trying to gain other people’s approval all of the time.

I also notice that I won’t be clear in my career choices based on believing these things.  I will tend to doubt my abilities.

Looking at this list again I can see how my career could be ‘ruined’ if I was believing every one of them. Why wouldn’t I question them and give myself the inner peace that feels good for me?

Karen

About Karen Cherrett

Karen has trained as a Certified Facilitator of The Work of Byron Katie and is also a Holistic Counselor. She wants to be of service to you to improve your love of life and all its experiences. Karen supports individuals, businesses and practitioners.

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